A monarch butterfly although stunningly beautiful is also poisonous. It is not born poisonous, but to defend its self from predictors it eats poisonous plants.
My little butterfly also uses forms of defense. She has learned survival tactics from her earlier years and uses then when she gets confused, remembers a part of her past or doesn't get her way. Throughout the next several months we will be coaching this little butterfly how to use positive actions to express herself instead of those she is currently using.
She was not born with poison, and I know she is strong enough to learn to live in love instead! We will make it to the other side of this, and we have huge faith that this butterfly's metamorphosis will not only be inspiring to anyone involved but also bless our family in ways we never would have imagined without her!
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Thursday, June 2, 2011
reality is not fun
Moving past something that happened isn't always easy, even for adults. Everyone deals with things differently. For a child who has been endured significant trauma it is that much harder because they don't have the tools to get through it.
For Julia most of her past has been blocked, she starts her memory when she moved in with us with a few fleeting memories before then. She has significant trouble placing people and events because her time line doesnt go that far back in her mind. Through an amazing amount of effort, time, trial and error Julia now feels that our home is her safety. To say this is a huge accomplishment would be such an understatement! She has come so far in her attachment to us and now strongly feels a part of our family, as she should!
Due to Julia's new feeling of safety, she has started to try to figure out her past, because she knows we will keep her safe from it no matter what. This has brought on new situations and challenges. After much thought and debate over how to best help Julia and also our family we have started Julia's Trauma Therapy. It is going to be a long hard road. Unblocking what she has very consciously hidden away in her memory is going to be a hard reality for her, and us. In the end she will have an understanding of what she went through, and the tools to get through the parts that linger with her throughout her life.
The program she is in deals with children with significant trauma. You need to qualify for the program, it is heartbreaking for us that Julia does qualify, but we have faith that she will do great and keep that amazing Julia smile in the end.
We ask you all to keep us in your prayers as we progress through this next step in our lives. We plan to have a great summer, lots of fun, lots of growth and learning and know God and our support team will get us through this, as we have gotten through everything else.
For Julia most of her past has been blocked, she starts her memory when she moved in with us with a few fleeting memories before then. She has significant trouble placing people and events because her time line doesnt go that far back in her mind. Through an amazing amount of effort, time, trial and error Julia now feels that our home is her safety. To say this is a huge accomplishment would be such an understatement! She has come so far in her attachment to us and now strongly feels a part of our family, as she should!
Due to Julia's new feeling of safety, she has started to try to figure out her past, because she knows we will keep her safe from it no matter what. This has brought on new situations and challenges. After much thought and debate over how to best help Julia and also our family we have started Julia's Trauma Therapy. It is going to be a long hard road. Unblocking what she has very consciously hidden away in her memory is going to be a hard reality for her, and us. In the end she will have an understanding of what she went through, and the tools to get through the parts that linger with her throughout her life.
The program she is in deals with children with significant trauma. You need to qualify for the program, it is heartbreaking for us that Julia does qualify, but we have faith that she will do great and keep that amazing Julia smile in the end.
We ask you all to keep us in your prayers as we progress through this next step in our lives. We plan to have a great summer, lots of fun, lots of growth and learning and know God and our support team will get us through this, as we have gotten through everything else.
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