Unfortunately through the past few years we have seen a common thread among people we encounter with Julia. And it usually plays out the same. We often get questions, followed by advice, ending with "well you would never know it" or "I have never seen it".
It is funny how people view a mental disorder differently than a physical one. If someone is diabetic do you doubt them based on the fact that you have not seen them go into diabetic shock? An epileptic who you have not seen seizure? Perhaps for the many migraine sufferers out there, it doesn't show... but that does not make the pain any less. So why don't these people go around showing signs of their medical conditions throughout their day? Most people try to stay on top of there medical condition through heading the adviceof experts, medicine, avoiding public if the symptoms seem to be increasing, or trying to keep it together long enough to get through a public encounter...
It is no different with a mental disorder. Julia's day is full of coping, soothing, confidence building tools from experts so that when she does go out in society she can hold it together. Some times it works, sometimes it doesn't. The days she does hold it together a toll is taken on her already fragile state. Once she is in the safety of her home Jules usually lets down her guard, which makes it hard sometimes, but understanding is the first step to helping.
Learning to see beyond what my eyes could see in Julia has helped me understand her heart, her ambition, and who she is in ways I would have missed if I stuck to my own ignorance.
